I am joining my friend Becca of The Becca Files for Memorable Mondays, which is a weekly meme featuring a book that you read in the past and share why/how it stuck with you.
For my first week I am featuring. . .
If you've followed my blog for any length of time you know that I am not a fan of self help/non-fiction books. However, when I read this book the first time in 2009, I was a hot mess both emotionally and physically. I did the study for this book with other singles whose marriages had just ended and were also emotionally drained. In reading this book I found that boundaries are important. So important this book should be read when we exit the womb. I had never learned how to place boundaries with those that I love and love me, nor did I know what a healthy boundary was. Learning those things taught me how to manage my relationships with my children, parents and other relatives. As well as those with my friends. I also learned what a toxic relationship looked like and what to do with toxic people.
This book with it's biblical background was a middle-aged life changer. I can't recommend it enough.
ABOUT THE BOOK:
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
NOW IT'S YOUR TURN . . . What book is memorable to you?
2 comments:
I agree this book was a great resource for helping to develop healthy and appropriate boundaries. I've actually read a few of the different Boundaries books and found each of them very helpful.
So glad you decided to join Memorable Monday! :)
I wish I would've read it in my 20's vs my 40's but I am so glad that I did. I've actually read this more than once and I get so much out of it.
I'm so excited to add Memorable Monday's to my blog lineup. :)
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