Monday, February 8, 2010

Review of US by Daniel Tocchini - BONUS GIVEAWAY




Don’t just improve your marriage. Transform it!

Marriage Coach Daniel Tocchini shows how to

break barriers and remove ruts in marriage



Us, a new book by Daniel Tocchini, isn’t about improving marriages. It’s about transforming them. Drawing on personal experience and stories from couples he has coached, Tocchini offers practical guidance to move couples beyond communication tricks and gimmicks to help them truly understand "Us" for the first time—talking honestly, listening generously, tackling tricky issues, breaking out of ruts, and abandoning self-centered “consumer thinking.” The good news, according to Tocchini, is that personalities don’t need to change in order for marriage to work. What needs to change is how we view ourselves, our spouses, and our marriages.



Innovative, insightful and thoroughly biblical, Tocchini’s approach has helped thousands in his popular seminars. Whether a marriage is in deep trouble or just coasting along, it's time for Christian couples to read the User's Guide that God intended.



In this intensely practical, innovative guide, marriage coach Daniel Tocchini invites you to open your marriage to transformation by learning to:

· Expect less—and infinitely more—of your life partner and yourself

· Actually talk to each other instead of making assumptions (and accusations)

· Break free of those recurring, unresolved arguments

· Manage the impact of difficult (but necessary) conversations on your relationship

· Defuse conflict without sweeping it under a rug

· Open the broken places in your marriage (the ones you hesitate even to talk about) to God’s kind of reconciliation



Tocchini explains, “This is a transformational approach to breaking through the barriers and getting out of the ruts in our marriage by paying attention to our conversation—what we are thinking, our motivation for thinking it, and the impact it has on our spouse.”



Author Bio

Daniel L. Tocchini has worked with more than 5,000 couples through personal marriage coaching and the unique and life-changing marriage seminars offered through his organization, the Association for Christian Character Development. An ordained minister, chaplain, author, and highly successful speaker/coach, he lives with his family in California.

My Review: To be honest I totally didn't realize that I had signed up for this book and when it arrived I was quite taken aback by it. Most of what is in this book is the same stuff I had heard over my 24 yrs of marriage. Seriously I say take what you can use from it and chuck the rest. Not everything that is in a marriage enrichment book, seminar etc will you be able to use. However, here is a little nugget that you can use that not every Christian has available to them. If you have divorced singles, or even divorced remarried in your church, ask them what they'd do differently with what they know now that they wish they'd known then. Believe me you will get a wealth of information. Divorced men and women have the been there done that knowledge plus they also are willing to share their experience. I would encourage you to seek them out and gain a new perspective on your own marriage through them. Believe me when I say that I wish that instead of going to seminar after seminar, weekend couples retreats, that instead we would have had a seminar where the divorced singles in the church spoke to us about what they had learned from their mistakes, even if they weren't the one who caused the divorce; what they learned about themselves through the divorce process. It really is remarkable. Take advantage of the resources within your church body you will be utterly amazed at what you have right at your fingertips and what you can learn. Blessings!

Giveaway: I am giving away my copy of this book. Just leave a comment and I will draw a winner on February 25th. That is my youngest daughter's 17th birthday. Good luck!

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